While some people are struggling to learn how to get over someone especially a controlling boyfriend or girlfriend, there are also people who are striving to have a happy and successful relationship. I truly appreciate it when I see older people with gray hair who are still very sweet with their spouses. It makes me believe that in our modern day where separation and divorce are becoming pretty common, it is still possible to have a good and flourishing relationship with someone you love.
I have known of some couples who have been together for 20 or more years and they all admit that their relationship was never without arguments, problems and trials. But one thing in common among them is that they never let these challenges ruin their relationship. Instead, they try their best to make their relationship even stronger.
Here are some of the tips they shared on how to make a relationship stronger and happy amidst the challenges:
- Spend more time doing things that you both enjoy. It could be watching movies together, eating at your favorite restaurant, travelling, playing games or even doing chores, as long as it is something both of you find enjoyable. Some people allow themselves to be preoccupied with work and other personal things, neglecting the importance of quality bonding time with their spouse or partner. This is one of the reasons why some relationships fail.
- Work together to solve any problem that may arise. It is very easy to blame the other person in case of failure or problems. There is no such thing as a problem-proof relationship and you can expect problems to come by when you least expect. When that happens, avoid the blame game and start discussing with your partner how to solve your problem.
- Become supportive to your partner. In times of difficulty, you should be the first one to show support to your partner. Your presence alone can mean a lot to a person who is down or depressed for some reason. If needed, you could also give positive encouragement.
- Appreciate even the smallest things that your partner did for you. It could be as simple as preparing your coffee for breakfast, cooking for dinner, washing the dishes, or taking you out on a date. Appreciate these simple things because it is the best way to recognize the goodness shown to you.
- Communicate always. Communication is vital in understanding each other. Without communication, doubts, conflicts and unmet expectations may arise. Additionally, over-the-phone conversation is not as effective as talking in person. It is important to take time each day to talk with your spouse or partner about anything that concerns you or your relationship.
Many relationships that have ended or failed could still possibly work if these tips were applied by the persons involved. If you are in a troubled relationship and you still want it to work, you should try any of the tips mentioned above and see how it can greatly improve your relationship.